Tips On Life, Career, & Dealing With People by Anonymous

#10 – For the most part, what others think doesn’t matter.
Ten years ago I was a 17 year old high school student who let the opinions of other people largely influence my choices.  It was a dumb way to live, considering that ten years later, those people whose opinions I held in such high regard aren’t even a part of my life anymore!

The times when someone else’s opinion of you truly matters are few and far between.  Think first
impressions, like meeting your significant other’s family, meeting a new client, or meeting a potential employer for a job interview.

Don’t let other people rent space in your head.  What they think of you isn’t important.  What matters most is how you feel about yourself.

#9 – Explore new hobbies and opportunities often.
When I cared about what other people might think about me, I never tried new things.  I was afraid that if I sucked at something, I’d be embarrassed.  To spare myself the embarrassment of being bad at something new, I would never explore opportunities to learn a new skill, or start a new hobby.

Looking back on it, I see it as lots of time lost!

Nowadays I’m always anxious to put myself out there and learn something new.  I sing, I enter contests,even though I suck at all of them.  I try new things as they come up, whether it’s a new restaurant, a new beer, or a new pastime.  When you try new things, you discover more and more things that you enjoy.

#8 – Nobody knows what you’re thinking unless you tell them.
People can’t read your mind.  This goes for your significant other, your employer, and that hot girl/man you’re too scared to talk to.

Ten years ago I was dating someone I no longer wanted to date.  I knew that I was unhappy in the relationship, but she didn’t.  Consequently, I waited and waited for things to improve, but they never did.  I want to scream at my young self: Well no shit things didn’t improve.  You never told her anything was wrong!

Relationships can’t improve unless you communicate.  This applies to your relationship with your employer also — if you’re working hard at your job and believe that you deserve a raise, you probably won’t get it unless you ask for it.

Simply put, your supervisor doesn’t know what you want.  Don’t wait for them to come to you, because your blood will boil over and you’ll end up quitting before it ever happens.  Ask to meet privately and spell it out for them!

As for that hot girl/man, if you don’t say anything before she/he walks out that door, then she’s/he going to walk out of your life forever having never known you.  Don’t let it happen.  Learn to communicate so people can know you.

#7 – Talk to everyone in the Office/street/church etc.
Why?  Networking.  When employers look for a good match for a job opening, the first thing they do is ask the people they’re already working with if they know someone who would do well in the position.  They tend to look through CV’s as a last resort.

College is the best opportunity you’ll ever have to build a complex, varied network of smart people.  Use it to your advantage and get your name out there, because grades mean nothing in the real world.

Also, live it up, because college is awesome.  Trust me when I tell you that after you’ve graduated, you’ll go through college withdrawal.  There’s a reason why so many people say it’s the best four years of your life.

#6 – Leave every job on good terms.
No matter how good it might feel to tell your boss to suck it right before storming out of a dead-end job forever, it is never worth it.  You will probably need another job someday, and you might just need some good references to get it.

Giving up all opportunities for future recommendations for one fleeting moment to tell your employer what you really think about them is a bad trade.  Give the required notice, and say thanks for the opportunity to work with them — even if it’s bullshit.

#5 – Pay your dues.
Even though you may have been hot in college, or at your last job, it will not grant you the slightest amount of entitlement in a new position for a new employer.  In many companies, you’re basically getting in line to wait your turn to move up the ladder, and it may take years to advance beyond positions of indentured servitude.

Stick to it.  Hopping from company to company looking for something “better” may allow you to get ahead in the short-term, but in the long-term your CV will become a mishmash of temporary stints that makes you look like a quitter.

In the end, persistence creates an impression of dedication and relevant experience — and it will outshine any other attribute, every time.

So take a look around.  If you’re absolutely certain you’re on the right career path, then stick to it.  Pay your dues.  Climb ladders.  It will be your turn soon enough.

#4 – Invest in yourself.
When you invest in yourself you can never lose.  This applies to everything:

Learn to cook.  You’ll save thousands on food in your lifetime.
Learn a foreign language.  You’ll expand your horizons and be easily employable.
Learn to spend less than you earn.  You’ll never be broke.

#3 – You can’t change anything by just sitting back and looking at it.
Change requires two things:  a conscious decision to accomplish something, and follow-through.  If you want something accomplished, then do it now.  If it can’t be done now, then do it today.  If it can’t be done today, then start it today.

Change is tough, but the most difficult step is getting started.  Of course once you’ve  actually started, the most difficult step is following through.  Change is tricky like that — but know that if you truly want it, you’ll find a way to create change in your life.

#2 – Expect people to be negative, especially if you’re carving your own path.
In all walks of life, you won’t see eye-to-eye with everyone.  People will come out of the woodwork to tell you that you’ll fail, tell you that you suck, laugh at you, argue with you, call you names, write you messages laced with profanity, and be altogether unpleasant.  As Tony Gazzo from Rocky put it, “Some guys, they just hate for no reason.”

The thing is, although it’s common to receive negativity from strangers, you’ll find that even the people you know and love can surprise you with negative attitudes. No matter who it is that’s trying to boo you off the stage, don’t let them succeed in doing so.

#1. Add yours here. Any word of advice. What have you learnt in this life?

Another Valentines in Texas

Looking for a mushy/lovey dovey/soft/way to start this post. Can’t seem to find any, which is a tad bit cold seeing as love is supposedly in the air(as if it isn’t always).which leads to the pressing issue of commercializing this day. I’m ok with Christmas being a money making venture, and takes cake for being the red month but February? C’mon…pay up the accumulated debts made in January.

So, anyway, it is valentine at the Tsavo as well…what even the plants here are in agreement. They are redgreen, which should be an equivalent of red (I think).They are positively glowing in Feb. And so are the couples in the East side of theTsavo (read TTC).

Anyone in a relationship here expects something on the big day. Those denying it are in denial to avoid disappointment on the day. Mainly because their single friends will want to know what they did on their day.

There is the type that is expecting presents and chocolates, teddy bears and flowers (Which reminds me, Juma, the guy who runs the tuck-shop, is selling flowers. He is giving some to ladies for free even J.Cheer up ladies, princecharming, will come to your rescue. He hands out candy as well.)Just thought I would add that. Feel free to smile at him; he might throw in a mango as well.

There is the single type…TGAV(The Girls Against Valentines)who make plans for the day,breakfast,brunch,lunch,swimming,dinner,dance and bitching about the day.This type is usually a group of single girls,mostlysingle,bitter from a relationship that isn’t working out or those whose boyfriends did not make any plans with them.

Finally, there is the group that sits around, fishing for gossip. Who took who out and who got dumped by who days before valentines. This type keeps tabs on people most part of the semester. This types, mostly includes dudes…sadly.

Then there is the first years who coupled up like the end of the world is in mid-March 2012.Crossing fingers on those ones.Gotta go back to keeping tabs on people. Happy hump Valentines people. Sheath for your peace of mind, or at least your mother’s.

Taitans love hangovers

It’s raining hugs and kisses: end of semester love hangovers

It’s the end of semester and people are busy reading for their exams. But love and all its side shows don’t take a back seat in all this educational bizarre. School is about to be on recess and lovers in the house are already feeling love sick.

In Texas there is a path called lover’s lane outside Mekatilili hostel aka k-street, and at night the flurry of hugs and kisses has in no way decreased. It has in fact doubled and the air literally screams love me! For the ones who are dating, late night extended strolls in the manicured paths of Texas have increased in frequency. The holiday plans are being mapped out and the love embers are blinking all around. The unfortunate people are those who happen to be single and are coincidentally sharing living premises with someone who has a relationship with someone who can’t seem to keep their hands off them. They find themselves exiled and forced to stay in the library or roaming around in laps for more hours than they would have bargained for. My pity actually mostly goes to those that live in rooms where the activities of the next door neighbor are no secret to anyone. The walls are so thin that any vigorous movement that might be made will be clearly heard by the adjacent room. I don’t imagine what they have heard so far. For those in relationships, feel free to show your undying devotion. I am in no way dissing you. It’s just that I noticed its coupling season reloaded…no exception to our orthodox-pious-religious faithfuls

 

#Reblog: Muturi and Nicole booty call

This is a Reblog from the author of endingcampo.wordpress

Am not going to talk mob about that call rather i will just re blog what IddSalim wrote on his blog about the possible source of the Audio leak : So here is a snippert of what he had to say:

“………………The question the few Kenyans with a brain are asking is this. “Hiyo simu waliiskiza aje?”. The question the few coders/security analysts are asking is this. “Have phone-call interception equipment finally come to Kenya? Do we, FINALLY, have hackers who can do what Salim has been talking about, akatukanwa? Are our worst fears finally here? Should we be worried?”. So, I decided to demystify the source of the clip…………

I tried looking at the Audio file in MP3 using Nyquist-Shannon sampling theorem and other audio analysis models and the results were outstanding. The recording came out as a perfectly flowing person-to-person convo. The convo took place and could not have been cooked. And so, I came up with these scenarios.

1 – A telco employee did it

As stated above, it is POSSIBLE and IT HAPPENS that phone call and SMS records can be sold. The question becomes, how comes it was ONLY this call that got out. How idle would a telco employee be, to sift through ALL the GBs of data to get this ONE call? Still, idlers exist. And there is something called luck.

2 – Muturi did it

Using a Smart or Smart-Enuff phone, one can record a phone call. Muturi might have recorded the call (knowingly or just automatically), found it funny as f*u*ck, and decided to share. Nicole would not have shared this. Stupid female pride would not have let her. Muturi would. Stupid male ego would not let him not share. “Muone vile madem hunikufia”.

3 – It was a studio-born viral prank call

High probability too. A ‘real’ phone call can be, unfortunately, manufactured. At the last few seconds of the call, we hear the credit/airtime beep. If a studio call, then this is a specially crafted section to add to LEGITIMACY. Stupid Kenyans must have been heard saying: “Si hata uliskia credit ikikatika. Ni ya ukweli.” How would someone willing to pay a cab and pika nyama not have more than KSHS 16.8 of credit?………….”

You can read his whole thought train here >>>> Or you can click here>>>> to listen to it

In my personal opinion,and speaking as a guy i think Muturi must have recorded it on his phone, you dont even need a smart phone to do that,even an Ideot can pull that one,then to prove a point to his boys/pub mates/ex clandes,leaked it and waited for it to go viral and judging by how desparado nicole sounded, Muturi must have tapped that and moved along.